Show Notes
Episode 73. Don't Be An Antithesis
Episode 73. Don't Be An Antithesis
Jesus said to him, “What if I want him to remain until I come? What concern is it of yours? You follow me.”
~ John 21:22
Why do I get so angry at others' opinions & actions?
How am I supposed to handle the evil & falsehood in the world?
Why is it easier for me to explain what I'm against than what I'm for?
In episode 73 of This Whole Life, hosts Kenna and Pat Millea welcome back Fr. Nathan LaLiberte for a candid conversation about identity, vulnerability, and the subtle trap of living in antithesis—defining ourselves primarily by what we’re against. Together, they explore how easy it is to move through life reacting to what we don’t like or want, rather than proactively following Christ’s invitation to an authentic identity rooted in his love. With honesty and a good dose of humor, the trio reflects on the pitfalls of fear-based living, the grace of following Christ, and the challenge of forging deeper relationships built on shared pursuits rather than shared enemies. From the temptations of social media outrage and cable news to the deeper work of self-reflection and forgiveness, this episode invites listeners to consider what truly forms their identity—and how to embrace a more Christ-centered, joyful life.
Show Notes
Vowing that I will NEVER be like “that person” or do “that thing” actually gives that person or thing a certain amount of control over my life.
“Jesus is radically against some things, and he is not quiet about the things that he is against. But even more than he is against those things, he is for his Father, and he is confirmed in his own identity.”
“John said to him, ‘Teacher, we saw someone driving out demons in your name, and we tried to prevent him because he does not follow us.’ Jesus replied, ‘Do not prevent him. There is no one who performs a mighty deed in my name who can at the same time speak ill of me. For whoever is not against us is for us. Anyone who gives you a cup of water to drink because you belong to Christ, amen, I say to you, will surely not lose his reward.’”
John 9:38-41
Challenge By Choice
Am I spending my energy moving toward Christ or just away from other people or things?
Focus not only on what you don’t want to do and who you don’t want to be; who do you want to be?
If necessary, renounce any promises to “never” be like a certain person or action: “In the name of Jesus, I renounce the false vow that I will never be like ____________. Lord, I commit to becoming who you have called me to be.”
Reflection Questions
For personal reflection or group discussion
What is one specific thing that stuck with you from this conversation?
Is it easier for you to be against things or for Christ?
How do media, especially social media, affect your opinions and reactions to others?
When have you vowed to "never" be like someone or do something? How did that impact the way that you approached daily life?
How can you take practical steps to living for Christ and allowing him to guide your responses to the sins & shortcomings of the world?