Show Notes
Episode 99. Talking To Your Kids About Sex w/ Dr. Julia Sadusky
Episode 99. Talking To Your Kids About Sex w/ Dr. Julia Sadusky
"There is literally nowhere else on the face of the earth I'd rather you go than to me."
— Dr. Julia Sadusky
Why do so many well-meaning Catholic parents freeze when it comes to talking to their kids about sex?
What do you actually say when your child comes home asking about their classmate’s parents?
How do you talk to your kids about pornography before they encounter it?
In episode 99 of This Whole Life, Pat and Kenna welcome back Dr. Julia Sadusky, licensed clinical psychologist, author, and one of the most trusted Catholic voices in the space of sexual formation. Julia wrote not one but two books to help Catholic parents have these conversations well: one for kids ages zero to nine, and one for teens. This episode is the one your group chat has been needing.
Julia doesn't make this scary or clinical. She walks Pat and Kenna through the common obstacles that stop parents cold, and then gives them real tools. Actual scripts. Practical language for everything from explaining genitalia to a toddler, to responding when your child asks why their friend has two dads, to having the pornography conversation before it becomes a crisis.
The goal isn't a perfect talk. The goal is a relationship where your child knows you are the first place they go.
Dr. Julia Sadusky is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and adjunct professor based in Littleton, Colorado. Her clinical work and research focus on sexual and gender development and trauma-informed care. She holds a bachelor's from Ave Maria University and a master's degree and doctorate in clinical psychology from Regent University.
Challenge By Choice
Call to mind the one word that capures your expeirence of sexual education as a child
Take some time to pray & reflect on your history of sexual formation, especially in your early years
Is your word something like: “minimal,” “encouraging,” “nonexistent,” “confusing,” “shameful,” or “heartfelt”?
What is the one word that I hope my children identify when they think about their sexual education with me?
Reflection Questions
For personal reflection or group discussion
What is one specific thing that stuck with you from this conversation?
How would you describe your formation & education around sexuality? What was it like, and how has it shaped your view of sexuality as an adult?
What are your areas of discomfort or shame around sexuality? How do you approach those struggles?
When have you felt ill-equipped, afraid, or anxious about helping your children understand the gift of sexuality? What is one thing you can do to help them in their journey of understanding sex?
How does your prayer & relationship with the Lord impact your relationship to sexuality? What can you bring to him in greater trust?