Show Notes
Episode 34. Perspectives on Pornography: His & Hers
Episode 34. Perspectives on Pornography: His & Hers
"Create in me a clean heart, O God..."
~ Psalm 51:12
How can something that affects all of us be something that we almost never talk about honestly and purposefully? Pornography has infiltrated individuals, marriages, families, and the Church, and it's time to deal with it in ways that are faithful and fruitful. In this incredibly candid episode, Pat and Kenna dive into an intimate and inspiring discussion about the impact of pornography within their marriage and their own personal journeys. With raw vulnerability, they reveal the emotional toll, struggles, and triumphs experienced during Pat's journey to recovery and their path to healing in their marriage.
From the deceptive nature of pornography's allure to the deep wounds inflicted, Pat and Kenna unpack the complexities and offer personal insights into navigating the aftermath. Together, they explore the transformative power of openness and healing, emphasizing the need for accountability, grace, and compassion in the face of addiction. This compelling episode addresses the profound effects of pornography on relationships and highlights the resilience and growth that can emerge from facing such challenges. Join Pat and Kenna as they courageously share their story, offering wisdom, hope, and guidance for all navigating similar struggles.
Show Notes
To submit a question or feedback for the follow-up episode on pornography ⬇️
Great resources for understanding & overcoming pornography use:
Matt Fradd’s various ministries, including STRIVE
Jason Evert & Chastity Project, as well as his “Detox” presentation on Formed.org
Covenant Eyes screen accountability app
Magdala Ministries for women struggling with sexual addiction, founded by Rachael Killackey
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
~ Matthew 5:27-28
Create In Me A Clean Heart: A Pastoral Response to Pornography from the US Conference of Catholic Bishop
Two research studies mentioned in the episode:
Trading Later Rewards for Current Pleasure: Pornography Consumption and Delay Discounting (Negash, Sheppard, Lambert, & Fincham)
Till Porn Do Us Part? A Longitudinal Examination of Pornography Use and Divorce (Perry & Schleifer)
“Vulnerability is my superpower.”
“Behold, now is a very acceptable time; behold, now is the day of salvation.”
2 Corinthians 6:2
TODAY is the day to be rid of pornography forever
Actor Russell Brand exposes the pain and destruction that pornography bring to people and relationships
(And we’re not sure why he’s not wearing a shirt)
The book discussed in the episode about getting past unwanted sexual habits to the deeper psychological & spiritual wounds in us
Challenge By Choice
Two Challenges By Choice:
one for users of pornography,
and one for the loved ones of those who use pornography
For pornography users: Choose to be radically transparent and vulnerable with someone you love about your use of pornography. How can you let the light of Christ shine on the darkness through openness with others?
For the loves ones of users: What wounds in you are touched by the pornography use of your loved one? What steps can you take to pursue healing & wholeness in those wounded places?